I've run across many buyers who believe if they don't find a home in the first or two tries, it wasn't meant to be.  If you don't immediately see a home that you love, don't get discouraged.  Buying a home is a goal and, as with any goal that you set, there can be a few stumbling blocks, hurdles, and obstacles along the way.  Your attitude is paramount in determining whether you'll succeed or fail in your mission.  Positive thoughts attract positive experiences and negative thoughts attract negative experiences.  

If you're not finding the home of your dreams right away, take the time to assess where you are right now and where you'd like to be.  To obtain optimum results in your home search, connect with a real estate agent who isn't afraid to ask you thought provoking questions, to help you get clarity on what's really important to you in your home buying process.  Take the time to evaluate your home search criteria.  Is it too limiting or restrictive?  Does it capture what's really important to you and your family? You may also need to closely examine your loan options with your lender.  There may be other loan products and terms available that will help you to get the home that you desire, while keeping your payments well within your comfort zone.  Or, you may need to change your focus.  If you're unable to afford your dream home now, perhaps, the best course of action is to find a home that's likely to increase in equity, so you can sell it in a few years and apply the equity towards your next home purchase.  Sometimes, to stay on course towards your destination, you need to take pit stops to evaluate your action plan, make any necessary revisions, and reaffirm to yourself that anything you can envision for yourself is achievable.